Everyone goes through it. One begins online dating someone and is borderline-obsessed. S/he equates these feelings with love but also realizes there is a big difference between the two. So how does one know whether or not s/he loves someone?



The key is time – LOTS of time. One cannot truly know if s/he loves someone until after at least a few months of knowing him or her. Of course, it is impossible to determine one’s character right away, which is why it is hard to know if one truly loves his or her other half during a relationship’s early stages. However, once months have passed – usually about six or seven, though the timing is different for everyone – there are surefire signs that one loves his or her significant other. According to Loveawake dating site recent study these include:

• When one’s partner starts to look good… no matter what.Sure, some people may gravitate towards certain people at first because of their good looks, but not all people make physical appearance a category on their dating checklists. These sincere people may know they love their significant others when they begin to view the partners who once caused them to cringe before kissing as heartthrobs. No lighting is too harsh and no dress too unflattering on one whom one loves.


• When the little things that annoy someone… don’t. Everyone has their pet peeves, but people in love do not notice the traits they would normally consider “flaws” in their partners. They tend to find the presence of their other halves so pleasing that they can’t find anything negative about them.


• When one’s outlook on life becomes more positive… even if s/he is delusional.S/he starts to believe wishes really do come true and giggles a lot of the time. This euphoria comes from being in love and finding a marvellous person with whom to spend one’s time. As one anonymous person once said, “Love is like the sun coming out of the clouds and warming your soul.” That is, love – at least a healthy love – causes one to be joyous and have more hope than s/he has ever had before.

Although it is hard to pinpoint when one actually loves someone and to differentiate love from infatuation, the above guidelines should help one to do so. There is one major guiding principle of course: when one’s in love, s/he’ll know. An arbitrary like transforms into an unconditional love, and a person under love’s spell can’t deny it.

Many adolescent couples make the mistake of spewing out “I love you”s in the beginning phases of their relationships when they do not feel love, merely infatuation. While “I love you” is a flattering statement, people are obligated to be honest to their mates. On that note, it may take some time to determine whether or not someone is in love.  One should relax and enjoy the adventures s/he and a partner partake in, though, until the former is certain of his or her feelings.